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19th Jan 2026

FINDING THE MAN YOU THOUGHT YOU WOULD BE - WHERE DO I START

WELCOME BACK TO ANOTHER EPISODE OF MAN VS MARRIAGE!

Most men don’t lose their way all at once.

They drift.

Pressure piles up. Expectations shift. Life demands attention. And if no one stops to decide who they’re becoming, circumstances quietly make the decision for them.

In this episode of Man vs Marriage, Quincy Moran confronts identity — not as a concept, but as a lived reality. This conversation isn’t about motivation, hacks, or quick fixes. It’s about deciding who you will be when everything is stripped away.

Before habits change.

Before effort increases.

Before consistency matters.

Identity must be chosen.

This episode challenges men to slow down long enough to ask the question most avoid — and to answer it honestly:

Who do you want to be… and is the man you are today becoming him?

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  1. Why most men drift instead of decide
  2. How pressure reveals identity
  3. Why “finding yourself” is the wrong goal
  4. The difference between intentions and standards
  5. Why families experience who you are, not who you intend to be
  6. How values must become the gatekeeper of emotion
  7. Why identity creates stability in marriage and family

Reflection questions:

  1. Who did I think I would be when I was younger?
  2. If nothing changes, who am I becoming?
  3. Where have I drifted instead of decided?
  4. What value must become non-negotiable?
  5. Who is shaping my identity — me or my circumstances?

This episode isn’t about becoming someone new.

It’s about finding the man you thought you would be — and deciding to become him on purpose.

#WhoDoYouWantToBe#FindingTheMan#ManVsMarriage#FamilyFamous#IdentityBeforeAction#MensIdentity#IntentionalLiving#PersonalResponsibility#MarriageLeadership#Fatherhood#LeadershipAtHome#StandardsOverFeelings#ValuesDrivenLife

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About the Podcast

Man vs Marriage
Man vs Marriage
Question time dude, have you ever looked at a Marriage where the husband and wife appear to be best friends and wondered “How can I get that?” Maybe you have thought about your marriage and wondered "Is this as good as it gets"? The truth is, your marriage can be AS GOOD AS YOU WANT IT TO BE. The Man vs Marriage podcast is the Man's guide to creating the best version of yourself and being proud of who you are and what you are becoming. We offer you the road map to what you want in a fulfilling life and marriage.

Follow our journey of 25 years and counting as we navigate Marriage, parenthood, and relationships with my wife Jeanne. Join us for some LIFE EXPERIENCE Men! Learn how we as men can totally transform our marriage while growing and transforming ourselves in the process. Find your purpose and find your sense of pride in being a man and winning in marriage.

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Quincy Moran

A Family Man! A Happily married man however that happiness hasn't always come easy. After 10 years of marriage and 8 children with numerous medical emergencies and family tragedy we had become roommates. Fast forward 10 years and we have become closer than either of us had ever known possible. After this amazing transformation thanks to our marriage coach Rita Enos, my wife and I decided to give back to the entire Human Race and give Men the opportunity to decide "How Good do you want your life/Marriage to be"? I am hardwired to inspire because it gives me life! It was only natural that I take this desire to inspire and my incredibly handsome face for radio to make a difference like I have experience in my own life.